If you are anything like me, having some sort of visual representation can make the difference of whether or not I fully understand something. That is what I am going to share with you now. We are just about 2 weeks into the new year and with so many people setting resolutions and/or very specific goals for themselves, I felt this would be an important topic to discuss.
When we set out to accomplish new goals for the new year, or any time of the year for that matter, I think it safe to say that all of us, or at least most of us, will at some point start to feel gravity setting in. We feel the pull to return to our old patterns, behaviors, and ways of thinking. There is a lot that is wrapped up in understanding why this happens, but today I want to talk about the people that influence us; for better or for worse.
The way we view ourselves affects every part of our life. Unfortunately, the way other people view who we are directly influences the way we view ourselves. If we acknowledge, entertain, and accept the way other people view who we are, especially in this social climate, it would be like trying to walk through a mirror maze on a daily basis. I don't know about you, but that seems exhausting to have to navigate.... and the thing is, we do it all the time. It's no wonder we are tired and lost. Just imagine that you are actually walking through a literal mirror maze and that every reflection you see represents a different view point that someone has of you. How do you know what's true? How do you know which reflection IS the REAL you?
If you haven't set a goal for yourself, or even if you have, I would encourage you to begin the journey through the maze. You can do this on your own, with a therapist, or maybe with someone who you feel safe with and feel really "gets" you. Regardless of how you choose to find your way out of the maze, know that at the end there will be a single mirror standing alone. That mirror will show you who your authentic self is...... your future, true, authentic self is waiting to greet you. You just have to take the first step.
How many times have you heard the saying "When life hands you lemons, make lemonade"? I used to think this was a nice healthy perspective until I started doing a lot of self-work.
Every time I hear someone say that, I wonder why just lemonade? There are so many things a person can do with lemons, yet most people go straight to, "I guess I will make some lemonade". Don't get me wrong, I love me a glass of ice cold, well, anything on a hot summers day. I just think there is a way to turn the power up on this statement.
How about, "When life hands you lemons, do anything and everything you desire to do with them". I'm thinking science projects, recipes, cleaning spray, lotion, oils, skin rub, etc. The list could probably go on for days!
It's important to pay attention to the words that you say, the thoughts that you have, and most importantly the energy you put into them. If someone else comes up to you and mentions some old saying that sounds limited in any way, speak up with a new way to say it. A new way to think about it.
Life really is what we make it. So whether you are handed lemons, a stack of cards, or pencil and paper... don't be afraid to show up with your creativity.
People will try to tell you that you can't. You will most likely hear people say it's never been done that way, or that you don't have what it takes. PUSH FORWARD! Your actions will always speak louder than your words and just by leaning into the fear and doing the thing anyway, you are telling the world WATCH ME.
Invest time on becoming the person you need to be, the person you have always wanted to be, and the person you were meant to be. I've never heard anyone say they regretted living an authentic fulfilling life and you won't either.
It seems as if this blog post is perhaps an important one for the first one. Many people seem to go through the day to day motions, just checking off boxes and waiting for the day to be over. There isn't excitement in going through the motions because these people haven't found anything in life to be excited about.
Some may even wonder how that applies to them because as they look around they are surrounded by people who love them. But here's the deal. Even if you have loved ones all around you, you can still feel lonely. There are a lot of reasons behind the cause of this feeling, but what I seem to run into time and time again is that people feel lonely inside their own skin. It can feel suffocating, or like you are a prisoner in your own mind and body.
How often have you dreamed of becoming more, being more, and doing more? If you haven't allowed yourself to dream in this capacity, have you ever wondered the reason behind that? We are here to tell you that you can have all the things you want in life and more! So if you feel like giving up, throwing in the towel, reach out and find support. I'm not talking about giving up on being alive, although if that is the case, please please do seek help. I am talking about giving up on the hope that things can or ever will be better.
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